WHEN EXPECTATION EXCEEDS PREPARATION_(The reason why marriages failing today)_SMS-MARRIAGE-MATICS

By Pastor Richard Minet

WHEN EXPECTATION EXCEEDS PREPARATION
(The bitter end of expectation without preparation)

Overview:

• Failing Marriage today and the worst yet to come.
• People getting married today without any knowledge or understanding of marriage.
• Our preparation for marriage does not match our expectations.
• The bitter end of expectation without preparation. 

Prov. 24:27
Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house. (ESV)

The rate at which marriages are failing today is so alarming. More terrifying or worrisome is the kind and class of people that are also involved in this break up (divorce) saga, Bishops, Pastors and all alike. While this should give us serious concern, going by scriptural prophecy, it seems the worst is yet to come. What is ahead of coming generations, may leave little or nothing at all to be desired of marriage.

1Tim. 4:1-3
Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared, FORBIDDING TO MARRY..., (ESV/KJV)
You want to know what exactly could happen that will make people detest getting married? A careful look at who and how people are marrying today, gives you a quick clue to this. Like I pointed in my book; "7 marriages that must not hold", too many people are marrying today who either have no business to or who have no understanding of marriage.

Sadly in this our time, many who wish to understand marriage and the preparations it requires or who feel they are not ready being incapacitated by factors like finance, timing, maturity or what have you, are forced by society, family and worse still, some, by even Pastors into marriage.

This Jesus predicted in Luke 17:26-27, when he said; Just as it was in the days of Noah, so will it be in the days of the Son of Man. They were eating and drinking and MARRYING and BEING GIVEN in marriage... The lesson here is that those who manage to say No, will be GIVEN, i.e. forced into marriage.

The problem with our generation is that once we hear so and so are engaged or planning to get married, we get carried away in jubilation, we hardly care to know who or what they are marrying or how they met, their background, if they have a pastor who will or have done marriage counseling for them and what preparations they have made for marriage, what matters to us is the wedding.

Our preparation for marriage does not match our expectations at all, our expectations far outweigh our preparation. When you hear statements like, "I will never endure marriage, my own is enjoyment all the way", "I'm not a fool o, if my own husband tries that with me, I'll return back to my father's house", then you know a person who's yet to receive marriage lessons.

For those who assume they are prepared, what they call preparation for marriage is actually, preparation for wedding or the joys and pleasures of marriage. Sadly for these, wedding and marriage are two different things, actually the marriage only begins after the wedding ends.

Considering the degree of hate, rancor, bitterness, rage, etc, that some one time best couples or lovers now harbour towards each other, which has made a lot of these not only a thorn in each others flesh but much more, the reason behind the alarming rate of abuse, violation and even manslaughter; husbands killing wives (vice versa) today, the need to enlighten our children better as to what and what to expect in marriage and how to prepare for these and not just the gown, the dinner and the romance is very vital now that the social media and entertainment industry more than ever before are giving our children false hope about what marriage is all about.

I strongly recommend the RCCG marriage counseling manual (To have and to Hold Forever) for anyone who is preparing for marriage or even for those already married. It is a marriage best seller. Lessons from choice of marriage partner, to what to do even before you embark on the journey, like knowing your blood type, to engagement and wedding ceremonies and how to go about them, handling extended family members, to issues of forgiveness in marriage, to communication, sex, finance, conflict management, divorce and remarriage, to matters we overlook most times such as; pregnancy, delivery and care of the newborn, etc, all of these are what young people should look forward to and not just the romance alone.
Be sincere with yourself, what exactly are your preparations for marriage, can you say they exceed your expectations. If you prepare adequately, nothing will take you by surprise. Those who usually back out most times prepared less, so let your preparation exceed your expectation.

ACTION POINT:
1. Can you identify at least 7 great expectations that you have for marriage and how you hope to achieve them.
2. Can you identify 7 unexpected issues you hope never to experience in your own marriage and how you will react to or plan to manage them if they occur.

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At the end of this article you will understand why our marriages our failing today and the remedy to this menace. Don't keep this to your yourself, kindly share with friends. 

MARRIED TO AN ANIMAL?_(Marriage between Man & Animal in Human form)_SMS-MARRIAGE-MATICS

By Pastor Richard Minet

MARRIED TO AN ANIMAL?
(Marriage between Man & Animal in Human form)

Contents:

• Adam selecting Eve for a wife instead of an animal.
• Language of Jesus that consummates marriage.
• Examples of people who married an animal. 
• The unbelievable result of marrying animals.

Gen. 2:18-24
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them:.. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs..., and made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 

Several marriages take place on the altar of the Church as well as in our society today that should never have seen the light of day. Today all kinds of living things, both man and beasts have been unknowingly joined together in wedlock. The fact that two people wearing a suit and a wedding gown are able to find their way down the altar does not mean they are humans. The leadership of the church must therefore like never before open their eyes to ensure that animals are not joined to humans just because they could creep to the altar as husbands or wives.

MARRIED OR CARRIED (Payment or Non Payment of Bride Price)

By Pastor Richard Minet

MARRIED OR CARRIED
(Payment or Non Payment of Bride Price) 


Overview:

• The value you placed on something.
• believers and tradition.
• Taking someone's daughter as a wife without honoring the family by paying her bride prize.  

1Sam. 18:20-25
Now Saul's daughter Michal loved David. And they told Saul, and the thing pleased him... Therefore Saul said to David a second time, “You shall now be my son- in-law.” And Saul commanded his servants, “Speak to David in private and say, ‘Behold, the king has delight in you, and all his servants love you. Now then become the king's son-in-law.’”... And David said, “Does it seem to you a little thing to become the king's son-in-law, since I am a poor man and have no reputation?” And the servants of Saul told him, “Thus and so did David speak.” Then Saul said, “Thus shall you say to David, ‘The king desires no bride price EXCEPT a hundred foreskins of the Philistines, that he may be avenged of the king's enemies.’”

The value you place on a thing is determined by the price you are willing to pay for it. While it is important to not allow greed or covetousness to rule our hearts especially in not using marriage as a catalyst for changing our financial fortunes, we must be careful not to make young people irresponsible by totally relieving them of certain vital responsibilities to tradition and custom.

HEAVEN MORE IMPORTANT THAN MARRIAGE (Merchandising of heaven for love and Marriage)

By Pastor Richard Minet

HEAVEN MORE IMPORTANT THAN MARRIAGE
(Merchandising of heaven for love and Marriage)

Contents:

• Priority the very key factor.
• Merchandising of heaven for love and Marriage.
• Accepting to lose or suffer now because of making heaven.

Matt. 13:44-46
“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and covered up. Then in his joy he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field. “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant in search of fine pearls, who, on finding one pearl of great value, went and sold all that he had and bought it.

In our relationship with God and our quest to make heaven, one of the most essential virtue is priority. Priority is a very key factor which many treat with levity and which has continued to wreck our relationship with God and consequently our marriages and even our businesses, this is because once priority is missed, every other thing falls out.

To make heaven, God demands nothing less of our all. His kingdom operates on the platform of ALL, He either comes first or does not come at all. Love and marriage very much like God also demands not only our time and affection but also our ALL. As important however as both are, every man must decide for himself which is uppermost. When we have no other option other than sell one to buy the other, what will that choice be?

THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE (making success of the act of love)

By Pastor Richard Minet THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE (making success of the act of love) Overview: Love language. languages most do men use when they want sex. Love languages differ from person to person. Signs that tells whether a RED CARD is about to be given. Gen. 26:6-9 So Isaac settled in Gerar. When the men of the place asked him about his wife, he said, “She is my sister,” for he feared to say, “My wife,” thinking, “lest the men of the place should kill me because of Rebekah,” because she was attractive in appearance. When he had been there a long time, Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out of a window and saw Isaac laughing with Rebekah his wife. So Abimelech called Isaac and said, “Behold, she is your wife. How then could you say, ‘She is my sister’?” Isaac said to him, “Because I thought, ‘Lest I die because of her. ’” To make a success of the act of love, it is important to know that love does not only have a voice or colour, it also has a language. Countless gullible and unsuspecting lovers have been deceived severally for a lack of the ability to read this language, while many homes and relationships have either crashed or continue to suffer unnecessary misunderstand or anguish due to the inability of the couples to understand, communicate or respond appropriately to the language of love. Very much like football, where two yellow cards equal one red card, love also has its mathematical calculations, every sign, act, move, gift, gesture, word, etc, actually passes a message and the ability to read and understand the various body or sign languages is very key in determining whether you continue or are sent packing in the game of love.

HEALTHY OR DEADLY RELATIONSHIP PART 1 (Detecting a deadly relationship and making a relationship healthy)

By Pastor Richard Minet HEALTHY OR DEADLY RELATIONSHIP (PART 1) (Detecting a deadly relationship and making a relationship healthy) Content: Learning from Samson's mistake.  A relationship can be deadly and still be romantic. Steps to take to avoid deadly relationship. Judge. 15:16-17 And she said unto him, How canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me? thou hast mocked me these three times, and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth. And it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death; That he told her all his heart, and said unto her, There hath not come a razor upon mine head; for I have been a Nazarite unto God from my mother's womb: if I be shaven, then my strength will go from me, and I shall become weak, and be like any other man. In the name of love, unknown to several people, what they are courting like Samson is death. Samson's parents foresaw and in fact warned him about his relationship with women, the likes of Delilah but he failed to listen, not because he wanted to, but because he just couldn't to see the danger they saw until Delilah destroyed him. But how could Samson have known, is it possible for anyone to tell a healthy relationship from a deadly one before it becomes too late? Can you tell if the relationship you are in presently is a healthy or deadly one? What if it's the latter, are there tips I can use in detecting or making it healthy? Now you cannot tell if a relationship is healthy or deadly just by whether the couples get along or not. A couple may not be fighting today, only to destroy each other tomorrow. A relationship can be deadly and still be romantic, while it can be healthy but be having issues, differences, etc, like quarreling and fighting every now and then, such can happen if the couples lack maturity or relationship skills, but this doesn't mean it is a deadly one. So how can I tell if mine is healthy or not? One major sign of a healthy relationship is a conviction that it is of God. It's not enough to say things like; we like each other a lot or we are compatible, ours is love at first site, we attend the same church, we've been very good friends for years, he/she has godly character or is a prayer warrior, if you don't have conviction, it won't be long before you become convicted. Whatever the position or however the meeting, what is most important is to have that inner peace or assurance that it is of God. Secondly, It must have the backing or support of constituted authority. You can't just meet each other or start an affair without recourse to those God has placed over you, your parents, guardians or church must support it. Everybody cannot just be against it, if they are, pause and pray, and note this, if it's a secret affair, one that you cannot make public, like just dating, checking out to see if it will work, then it is not a healthy relationship at all, but a deadly one.

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION Part 4 (Discover how to be attractive)

By Pastor Richard Minet

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION (Part 4)
(Discover how to be attractive)

Contents

• various wrong tools of attractions.
• The Powerful key tool in both in attracting and keeping affection, love, marriage or even business.
• Powerful Secret tools of attractions that makes you attractive and magnetic to the world.

Prov. 12:8
A man shall be commended according to his wisdom: but he that is of a perverse heart shall be despised.

Having dealt extensively with various wrong tools people apply for the purpose of getting attention and gaining attraction, (See the parts 3 of Tools of Attraction) Today's devotional opens us to one of the most effective tools of attraction. The tool of INTELLIGENCE.

Our world is changing so quickly, several things that used to matter, doesn't seem to any longer. Values are fast eroding, people are becoming more exposed, with the advent of technology and the social media, more and more people are becoming more informed.

Before now, one major tool of attraction that the world celebrated was beauty. Those endowed with good faces knew it was a great asset, the world dropped at the feet of such gorgeous folks, they went by the name; Miss this and Miss that, they enrolled for beauty pageant competitions and those with the finest looks, shape, height and smile stole the heart and affection of their audience.

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION Part 3 (How do you attract your soulmate?)

By Pastor Richard Minet

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION (Part 3)
(How do you attract your soulmate?)

Overview:

• Wise interpretation of attraction.
• Genuine love.
• crazy tools of attraction.
• Wrong perception of Marriage.
• Developing goals in life. 

Eccl. 8:1
Who is as the wise man? and who knoweth the interpretation of a thing? a man's wisdom maketh his face to shine, and the boldness of his face shall be changed.

Inability to properly or wisely give interpretation to matters of life like attraction we discovered has misled many into applying the wrong tools in the hope of getting attention, winning affection or gaining attraction.

In order to attract love or affection, it is amazing what some people do just to achieve this. Ordinary people suddenly turn into fine actors, they put up acts, change their accent, posture, presentations, gesticulations, borrow clothes, cars, phones, etc, all for just one purpose, to gain attraction. You've not seen the best actors until matters of love and marriage surfaces. In order to attract, some people can pretend to do or be what they are not.

Then there are those who go as far as changing their physical looks, they alter parts of their body just to win love or be attractive to a person. This is an error, and pure inability to interpret attraction correctly. Anyone that you have to alter who you are in other to win their affection or get their attention is not worthy of you. Don't borrow clothes, hair or car so as to be attractive, just be yourself.

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION Part 2 (Things that arouse interest & pull people towards you )

By Pastor Richard Minet TOOLS OF ATTRACTION (Part 2) (Things that arouse interest & pull people towards you ) Contents: Scope of attraction. Different people with different attractions. Tools that must never be introduce in winning attraction. Major tool to win love or gain attraction. SOS 8:7 Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, he would be utterly despised. Whenever a word like attraction is mentioned, what readily comes to mind is facial appeal, physical beauty, hot looks, great physic, nice makeup, good fashion, etc. On the contrary, to think like this is to REDUCE the scope of attraction, this is because attraction transcends mere physical looks. To ATTRACT is TO AROUSE INTEREST, it is TO PULL TOWARD by means of some power WITHOUT TOUCHING. People generally can be and are attracted to different things. While some are attracted to beauty, others are attracted to fame, character, boldness and many others to other values of life. What attracts one person may not be an attraction to another. There are people who are attracted to facial beauty while there are those who care less about it and who instead can only be attracted to HARD-WORK, intelligence, etc, then there are those who will give anything to only marry a person with a great PRAYER LIFE. As ridiculous as this may sound, there are people who don't or will not for any reason marry an attractive or facially beautiful woman.

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION Part 1 (People falling for the lesser tools of attraction)

By Pastor Richard Minet

TOOLS OF ATTRACTION (Part 1) 

(People falling for the lesser tools of attraction)

Contents:

• The fear of God above Beauty.
• Use of Beauty for the wrong purpose.
• The agony of slay mamas.
• What determines your true worth.
• The right things to invest or indulge.  

Prov. 31:30
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

As wonderful and important as favour and beauty are to effortlessly accessing and getting the good things of life, scripture says when placed side by side certain other virtues like the fear of God, they are nothing. To therefore focus your life on achieving your quest or getting your heart desires through your beauty or connection (favour) ONLY other than by the ways, pattern and divine order will amount to vanity.

Unknown to most people, ladies especially, this is all they have been trained and used to for surviving. From academic success to money, to getting attention or their needs met, to starting and keeping a relationship or having their way with people, they know no other way other than the way of connection and beauty. Sadly, this is the tool some use in running their marriages.

Why sweat the stuff? Why suffering to read just to pass an examination? Why work so hard to get a promotion if I can get it by simply using my connection or using my face and body power?. What is the use of my beauty if I cannot use it? My face, my smiles, my shape and my beauty are my weapons o. All I need is see Mr so and so or do some serious packaging and I can never be resisted by any man.

This was the same thing Jezebel said or thought to use to woo Jehu when God sent him to kill her. Unknown to her, beauty sometimes can be charming and favour magical, but when they come face to face with realities of life, with life's battles, when confronted with sickness, witches, pain, anger and the wickedness of life, they fall flat on their faces.

2Kgs. 9:30 -33
And when Jehu was come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she painted her face, and tired her head, and looked out at a window. And as Jehu entered in at the gate.., he lifted up his face to the window, and said..., Throw her down. So they threw her down: and some of her blood was sprinkled on the wall, and on the horses: and he trode her under foot.

Why use beauty or connection to face life's battles when you have something more dependable. Will you be beautiful forever, take a look at pictures of some beautiful slay mama's 50 years back to what you see now, and you will pity beauty. What about those in Nigerian government yesterday who had all the connections, where are they today.

TRAINED TO BE KEEPERS AT HOME (Training Our Daughters to be Keepers at Home)

By Pastor Richard Minet

TRAINED TO BE KEEPERS AT HOME
(Training Our Daughters to be Keepers at Home)

Contents:

• What food represents in our cultures.
• The use of by God, Satan and man to achieve different purposes.
• Success in the workplace at the expense of the home front.
• The true meaning of the word "keeper".
• Working class 21st century ladies

Tit. 2:1-5 
As for you, Titus, promote the kind of living that reflects wholesome teaching. Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely... Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They... should teach others what is good. These older women MUST TRAIN the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, TO WORK IN THEIR HOMES, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. (NLT)

Apart from being a source of nourishment for sustenance of life, food represents a lot of other purposes. From place to place, people to people, culture to tradition, etc, food means different things to different people.

For example In some eastern part of Nigeria, refusing food is regarded as refusing their friendship. In Gen. 18:1-8 Abraham urge God to accept his food as a sign that he had indeed found favour with him. In Gen. 27:1-4, Isaac ordered for food from his son Esau to be used as a propellant for activating divine blessing.

SETTLING DESTINY PATHS (God's designed path for you)

By Pastor Richard Minet

SETTLING DESTINY PATHS

(God's designed path for you)

Overview:

• God has a plan for all his own, so also does the devil.
• The reason you must not steps out of God's designed path for you.
• Graces that must accompany anyone who wishes to remain on destiny. 
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Acts 16:16-18
And it came to pass, as we went to prayer, a certain damsel possessed with a spirit of divination met us, which brought her masters much gain by soothsaying: The same followed Paul and us, and cried, saying, These men are the servants of the most high God, which shew unto us the way of salvation. And this did she many days. But Paul, being grieved, turned and said to the spirit, I command thee in the name of Jesus Christ to come out of her. And he came out the same hour.
The same way that God has a plan for all his own, so also does the devil. Every new year, month, time or season only presents us with the platform to either fulfill one or the other. Our ability to walk in God's path and enjoy divine daily progress however lies in our ability to hear and follow this path designed by God for us.

Before any year begins, God has already finished it. Jer. 1:5. And this is what satan targets, God's arrangement, design, provision and direction to lead us into joy; this is what satan hates and which he seeks to alter but cannot unless he gets us to deviate from this path of destiny.

RESOLUTION OR PURPOSE? (Setting Goals)

By Pastor Richard Minet

RESOLUTION OR PURPOSE?
(Setting Goals)

Contents:

• Setting goals this year 2018.
• No day, month or year is new without God.
• Resolution without God, can actually become a Revolution against God.
• What makes a year new or old.

Exo. 12:1,12,14
And the Lord spake unto Moses and Aaron in the land of Egypt, saying, This month shall be unto you the beginning of months: it shall be the first month of the year to you. For I will pass through the land of Egypt this night, and will smite all the firstborn in the land of Egypt, both man and beast; and against all the gods of Egypt I will execute judgment:I am the Lord. And this day shall be unto you for a memorial; and ye shall keep it a feast to the Lord throughout your generations; ye shall keep it a feast by an ordinance for ever.

2018 is here now, and now this is the time that several people start thinking about New Year’s resolutions. Things to do or not to do, who to see and who to avoid, where to go and where not to, what to give more attention to and what not, the kind of things you'll tolerate or disallow, and the list goes on.

We set personal goals, fitness goals, organizational goals and more. But what about goals to meet the purpose of the one who both made the year new as well as brought us through into the new year?

By itself, no day, month or year is new without God. Ask yourself, what really makes today, Sunday January 1st different from yesterday Saturday 31st December, is it because it is fairer, cloudier, cooler or what?. Did all your debts suddenly disappear, will the day make the last exam you failed a success suddenly, will it make the guy who dumped you return suddenly, does it suddenly turn a tenant into a landlord, all of these answers are no. In fact do you know some people lost their loved ones today, while you are shouting happy new year, someone is crying bitterly because their marriage just broke this morning. So what's the thing about the year being new when it doesn't really offer anything different apart from maybe the excitement, screams and shouts of "Happy New Year".

LOVE OR THE FEELING OF LOVE? (Discerning Infatuation from genuine Love)

By Pastor Richard Minet

LOVE OR THE FEELING OF LOVE?
(Discerning Infatuation from genuine Love)

Overview:

• Romantic Love.
• The meaning of romance.
• Why Divorce rate is on the rise.

2Sam. 13:1-4, 10-12, 14-15.
And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon loved her. And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar;... But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab... And he said unto him, Why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to day? wilt thou not tell me? And Amnon said unto him, I love Tamar, my... sister... And Amnon said unto Tamar, Bring the meat into the chamber, that I may eat of thine hand... And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister. And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me;... Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her. Then Amnon HATED her exceedingly; so that the HATRED wherewith he hated her was GREATER than the love wherewith he had loved her.

Romantic (infatuation) love is one that throws caution to the wind. Once you are fallen, nothing else in the whole wide world matters, all advice, plea or effort by your loved ones to persuade or dissuade you, only falls on deaf ears. If those involved are not cautious, the excitement can sometimes turn into a fever, yet as wonderful as it may seem, overtime the excitement gives way to reality. Reason those caught in it are always in a hurry to see it burn or consume them, and like Amnon, once the fire is done burning, it leaves it’s victims disappointed, disillusioned or crushed.

Whatever Amnon thought he felt; love, affection, romance; whatever, something definitely must be wrong with it because it's funny how so short his professed fiery love for Tamar lasted? In a moment of ecstasy he was so blind, all of Tamar’s plea to reason fell on deaf ears, one moment after, his eyes opened and now all he wanted was to have nothing to do with the love for which he had been so ill.

WHAT SPIRIT IS IN YOU? SMS-MARRIAGE-MATICS

Pst Richard Minet

SMS-MARRIAGE-MATICS A Daily Marital Devotional WHAT SPIRIT IS IN YOU? Num. 5:12-15 “Speak to the people of Israel, If any man's wife goes astray and breaks faith with him, if a man lies with her sexually, and it is hidden from the eyes of her husband, and she is undetected though she has defiled herself, and there is no witness against her, since she was not taken in the act, and if the spirit of jealousy (suspicion) comes over him and he is jealous (suspicious) of his wife who has defiled herself, or if the spirit of jealousy comes over him and he is jealous of his wife, though she has not defiled herself, then the man shall bring his wife to the priest and bring the offering required of her, a tenth of an ephah of barley flour. He shall pour no oil on it and put no frankincense on it, for it is a grain offering of jealousy, a grain offering of remembrance, bringing iniquity to remembrance. 2Cor. 4:13 Every human being carries a spirit in them. Now whatever spirit a man carries will determine what his driving force is, as well as his core values, actions and ultimately what becomes of the destiny he carries. Like Samson, a person may start out a venture, ministry or marriage with the right spirit (And the Spirit of the Lord began to move him (Samson) at times in the camp of Dan... Judg. 13:25) but may end up receiving another spirit along the way (For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we have not preached, or if ye receive another spirit, which ye have not received...,  1Cor. 11:4) whether knowingly or unknowingly, it is this spirit that will determine how such a fellow will end. Now there are different kinds of spirits. Scripture speaks of a spirit at work ruling and controlling the people of the world. "In which you once walked, following the COURSE of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the SPIRIT that is NOW AT WORK...," Eph. 2:2-3. It is this spirit at work that is responsible for many disobedience, rage, pride, lust, jealousy, etc, as well as our living in the passions of our flesh, and carrying out the desires of our body and our mind. Joseph and his brothers all carry spirits, but different spirits. It was this spirit that determined what they did, what they accepted or rejected as well as what they attracted and repelled. Our text shows the possibility of a spirit entering or coming upon a man, in this case, it was a spirit of jealousy, note that we were not told this man caught his wife in adultery, in fact we were told of the possibility that she may not have even committed the act; (or if the spirit of jealousy comes over him and he is jealous of his wife, though she has not defiled herself Num. 5:14). Like this case, today many couples unleash several untold hardship, misery, suffering, starvation both of sex and other provision and gratification just because one of them have opened up to a wrong spirit. They assume their partner deserve the treatment they are giving them, not knowing an evil spirit is at work to destroy their marriage. That thing you are doing and boasting about that he/she deserves it because of so and so they did, is not true, another marriage not far from you experiences worse, yet they still manage and respect each other. The difference is in the spirit they carry. Like Caleb, God wants you to carry a different spirit, only this can enable you follow the right actions and guarantee you and your seed the promises of God in marriage. "But my servant Caleb, because he had another spirit with him, and hath followed me fully, him will I bring into the land whereinto he went; and his seed shall possess it". Num. 14:24 There are people today who carry certain spirits and don't know because the spirit is not manifesting yet or physically. That a spirit has never manifested to push or use a person or to ferment trouble does not mean a person is empty of it, there are spirits whose time is yet to come, so like God's spirit on Samson, they are moving little by little, preparing their victim, waiting for the right time to manifest. The book of Revelation, tells us about demons from creation, waiting for their time to manifest. I ask again, what spirit is in you or already pushing you? Ability to detect quickly and renounce, reject and repent of it, will go a long way to help you. Hannah had a sorrowful spirit; 1Sam. 1:15; And Hannah answered and said, No, my lord, I am a woman of a sorrowful spirit. The mouths of Ahab's prophets were taken over by lying spirits, 2Chron. 18:21; And he said, I will go out, and be a lying spirit in the mouth of all his prophets... But Solomon spoke of a humble spirit; Prov. 16:19; Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly... Sirs, whatever you give or open yourself to regularly, eventually determines what spirit takes and drives you. What you believe and focus on in life more determines what you worship and what you worship, determines what you carry. @SMS With PRM   #Marriage-Matics CONCLUSION: If what you open up to is a wrong doctrine like the Obama's gender equality gospel, what kind of spirit do you suppose you'll carry, REBELLION and PRIDE towards a man, so stop focusing on such messages, songs, lies, etc, and don't forget, what you carry determines what drives you and consequently your deliverables in life. Kindly drop your comments, questions and observations below, Thanks for your visit

HEALTHY OR DEADLY RELATIONSHIP? (PART 2) (SMS MARRIAGE-MATICS)

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A Daily Marital Devotional

Pst Richard Minet

Wednesday 27th Dec 2017

HEALTHY OR DEADLY RELATIONSHIP PART 2

2Sam. 13:11-14
But when she brought them near him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, “Come, lie with me, my sister.” She answered him, “No, my brother, do not violate me, for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do this outrageous thing. As for me, where could I carry my shame? And as for you, you would be as one of the outrageous fools in Israel. Now therefore, please speak to the king, for he will not withhold me from you.” But he would not listen to her, and being stronger than she, he violated her and lay with her.

No matter how healthy a relationship may be, it soon becomes not only unhealthy but a deadly one if left without boundaries. You see, because relationship is dynamic in nature, it has the potential to either graduate or degenerate if left unchecked or without restrictions. This is why platonic friends today can become strong lovers and even married tomorrow.

Relationships apart from what they are naturally known or called, e.g. Wife, Husband, Brother, Sister, Master or servant, can also be defined by whatever is transacted by those involved. For instance, if a boss is sleeping with his secretary, she would although still be so called, but truth is, she has graduated from secretary to the bosses lover. Hence; she will begin to enjoy preferential treatments, unrestricted access, waivers, more personal time with the boss, etc, much to the chagrin of all other colleagues.

What has happened here is what Jesus expressed in John 15:15; No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. Here, Jesus was trying to buttress this point to his disciples, that although they still related with him as servants, but their relationship has moved; they are no more servants due to the ongoing transaction.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR ATTRACTION (SMS_MARRIAGE-MATICS)

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A Daily Marital Devotional

Pst Richard Minet

Saturday 23rd Dec 2017


UNDERSTANDING YOUR ATTRACTION

1 Kgs. 11:1-2
Now King Solomon loved many foreign women, along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the people of Israel, “You shall not enter into marriage with them, neither shall they with you, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love.

One silent quest in the heart of most Christian men today is to have nothing short of a beautiful girl for a date or as a wife. As for those already married to women not worthy of this status, they shy away from being seen in public with their women, without understanding what exactly a man's attraction to women should be.

Today that marriage is no longer based on divine leading but on attraction. God is very concerned about who you are attracted to, hence the reason behind his stern warning to his people, the Israelites because he knew that those to whom you are attracted, may not only eventually become your wife, but also strongly influence your life, including turning your heart away from Him, if all they consist of is physical beauty devoid of godly character and fear.

LOVE PORTION (certain qualities like beauty, talent, entrepreneurship, etc given to us by God in portion)

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LOVE PORTIONS
(certain qualities like beauty, talent, entrepreneurship, etc
given to us by God in portion)

Contents:

• Things any child of God who intends to make a success of a relationship.
• God's equation for marriage.
• Accepting your portion, admire what's yours.

Eccl. 9:9
Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun. 

The first things any child of God who intends to make a success of a relationship or marriage needs to know is that although certain qualities like beauty, talent, entrepreneurship, etc, are very good, however because they are not necessarily essentials in the mathematics of a good marriage, they are therefore only given in portions.

There is such a thing as portions given by God. The rich have their portion, the poor have theirs, so also do the great and the common in life.

Isa. 53:12
Therefore will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the strong;...

In God's equation for marriage, everyone can only have a portion, no one can have it all. Your portion will include some things but definitely not everything. You cannot have a dark and a fair face in one person, and if you are dark but chose to become fair, by bleaching, you then must lose your dark beauty, but you can't have both, and why? You can only have either as your portion.

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SMS MARRIAGEMATICS - (LOVE REVOLUTION)

A Daily Marital Devotional

Pst Richard Minet

Thursday 21st December 2017


LOVE REVOLUTION

SOS 8:6-7
Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.

A revolution is a drastic and far reaching change in ways of thinking and behaving. From time to time, we hear or see people carry out a revolution in a state, organisation or society.

But why do people do this? Revolutions take place when people become tired of a system, structure, culture, govt, people or way of life. When people try dialogue, engagement rules, when they hope with expectation or wait in futility for a desire that seems to continue to elude them, then they call for a revolution.

It has become obvious that our world is getting tired and sick of the mirage called love, because it has offered nothing but a continued failing and hurting of those who have dared to venture it. "My love for her is dead" is a very popular statement today and the reason for most divorces, breakage in relationships, single parenting and consequently, the belief today that true love is an elusion, or that it no longer exists today. Many are weary of the romantic love ideology, as to how it only exist in movies but never in true life. On days like Valentines day, rather than enjoy love, many return empty; illusion, pain, a sudden dawning and a demoralizing feeling is what always usually follow the excitement and momentary pleasures that this love brings with it, and this over time, has caused many to doubt or boycott being a part of it as they normally do. Hence, the call for a total overhaul of this kind of LOVE.