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| By Pastor Richard Minet |
GETTING MARRIAGE RIGHT (PART 4)
WHOSE DAUGHTER ART THOU
(Getting the right partner)
After going through this Article. you will be able to know:
- Why the person you marry goes a long way to determine what experience you have and what strengths and weakness you both enjoy as well as suffer.
- Why you wrongly focus more on the weaknesses of the Family instead of the strength.
- Why you should Stop seeing your spouse, judging and dealing with them only through their weaknesses
Gen. 24:19-23
And when she had done giving him drink, she said, I will draw water for thy camels also, until they have done drinking. And she hasted, and emptied her pitcher into the trough, and ran again unto the well to draw water, and drew for all his camels. And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the Lord had made his journey prosperous or not. And it came to pass, as the camels had done drinking, that the man took a golden earring of half a shekel weight, and two bracelets for her hands of ten shekels weight of gold; And said, Whose daughter art thou? tell me, I pray thee: is there room in thy father's house for us to lodge in? ?
People believe traits, whether good or bad, must be from a family. In 1Sam. 17:55-58, when Saul saw David go out against the Philistine, he said to Abner, the commander of the army, “Abner, WHOSE SON IS THIS YOUTH?” O king Abner replied, As surely as you live, I do not know.” And the king said, “Inquire whose son the boy is.” And as soon as David returned from the striking down of the Philistine, Abner took him, and brought him before Saul with the head of the Philistine in his hand. And Saul said to him, “WHOSE SON ARE YOU, young man?” And David answered, “I am the son of your servant Jesse the Bethlehemite.”
Isn't it funny, rather than focus on the present concern, Saul seemed more interested in who David's father (family) was. But why was Saul so interested in the family of this boy rather than celebrating the victory at hand? Because of source! your father and your mother, whose child you marry, matters a lot. Not just because of the weak patterns but sometimes because there are also strong traits that you can draw from too. For Saul, if this lad could perform such a feat, to discover his family will mean to discover more of his likes; it will mean to discover more victors for his army.
For this same reason Abraham's servant asked Rebekah that question, "Whose daughter are you?" You see, the father (family) of the person you marry goes a long way to determine what experiences you have and what strengths and weaknesses you both enjoy as well as suffer.
Well apart from bad character traits and ancestral patterns that we saw exists in the family you enter, there are also good character traits like we saw in the Jewish women, I.e. "THEY ARE QUICK TO DELIVER". But do you know by the world's training, some of us may marry women like Hebrew women but still spend so much at the expense of other needs just to ensure our wives get the best medical attention during childbirth, some even say I can't stand labour pains, so open her up, instead of capitalizing on this family character trait and grace.
Sadly, we have been trained by this world to focus more on our weaknesses than on our strengths. Why should you suffer the bad but not enjoy the good of the person you marry? Our problem is that we always let the bad overshadow the good.
Rebekah although elated about the wealth and great family character trait of Abraham's family, was not carried away by this alone, she knew that apart from this, there will somewhere lie something negative too, so when she eventually entered Abraham's family and discovered rightly that barrenness ran in the family, she very much unlike Rachel who fought Jacob for not bearing children, (Gen. 30:1) was patient with her husband, looking unto God, till he finally answered them. Knowing the place of wisdom and where to draw the bottom-line, she made the most of both traits.
Eccl. 7:16-17
Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish:why shouldest thou die before thy time? It is good that thou shouldest take hold of this; yea, also from this withdraw not thine hand:for he that feareth God shall come forth of them all.
The good news today is that you are not disadvantaged, you don't really need to come from a rich, popular or great family to have or enjoy strong family traits, no, not all, since all evil traits have their root in the spiritual, you also as a child of God have inherited the strongest spiritual root, trait or family background. Have I? Yes you have. If you truly are born again, then God is your father and your family has also changed, just that you don't know.
Don't let this world pattern rob you of your heavenly pattern or of who you are. Genealogy and the account of ancestral/generational birth record ended with Christ. This is confirmed in scripture, see Matt. 1:1-17. Genealogy began from Adam but when it got to Christ, it ended, no more this begat that or your father's bad blood running inside you . What this means is that in Christ Jesus, your family blood pattern is now Christ's, only if you can connect to this new life as well as enforce it against those evil family patterns.
Whose daughter or son are you? Whose daughter or son did you marry? Stop seeing your spouse, judging and dealing with them only through their weaknesses, focus also and in fact much more on the other side of their flaws, because, whichever you think, accept, claim and declare more and often is the one that you'll enjoy or suffer the most.
2Cor. 5:16-17 says; From now on, therefore, we regard no one according to the flesh. Stop seeing your spouse through eyes of their evil family bloodline.
POINT OF ACTION:
1. In 10 minutes write out side by side the strengths and weaknesses that you can identify in your spouse, whichever is more, shows what you focus more in him/her.
@SMS With PRM #Marriage-Matics
FINDING & GETTING MARRIAGE RIGHT (Part 1),
FINDING & GETTING MARRIAGE RIGHT (Part 2)
FINDING &GETTING MARRIAGE RIGHT (Part 3)
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