WHO IS THIS YOUR REBEKAH?_(A Godly Woman of Action)_SMS-MARRIAGE-MATICS

By Pastor Richard Minet

WHO IS THIS YOUR REBEKAH?
(A Godly Woman of Action)

Content:

• People marrying those they know little or nothing about.
• Isaac's marriage a comforting one for several reasons.
• The miracles and the mercies of God are exclusively his prerogative.
• Know the person you want to marry well enough.
• Anyone marrying you has a right to your past

Gen. 24:15-16
And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder. And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up.

It amazes me today how people marry those they know little or nothing about. "He's a nice guy, he's even a chorister", go ahead and ask for the name of his church, and she goes; "ehmm, it's something Power and something Fire church like that". What of his father, and she goes; 'he said he and his father have not spoken for years", ask her why? Again she goes; "he said, one prophet told them his father is a  wizard, so he doesn't want anything to do with him", and you are already fixing wedding date; quite amazing!

Isaac's marriage was a comforting one for several reasons, one of which is the fact that his marriage was never ventured without first knowing his Rebekah well enough. From her father, to her grandfather, to her other families, what she does, and looks like, and then to who she is on the ground not on facebook or by one half snapped picture, and there was no discussion about wedding until they had first cleared all of these; they screened her RESUME. It's there, look at it, nothing hidden, very crystal clear for all to see.

And Rebekah came out, who was:
BORN TO BETHUEL,
SON OF MILCAH, THE WIFE OF NAHOR, ABRAHAM'S BROTHER,
WITH HER PITCHER UPON HER SHOULDER.
AND THE DAMSEL WAS VERY FAIR,
A VIRGIN...*

You can't go through such a resume, even as short as it seem and still need ask further questions about who this Rebekah is. Her past, family tree, personality and present occupation, were all spelt out.

It's strange how our youths today meet somebody and under 2 months they are already planning marriage and sadly against the wish or amidst the fear of those who are authorities over them.

A dear son of mine wedded sometime ago, and several people wondered why I refused to attend when they know I was his father and I told one of those who cared to ask, that I didn't attend because right from when he met the sister till that day, he kept on promising to bring her on request but never did. So I asked him, if I come to that wedding and you ask me where the lady is from and I say I don't know, again you ask me who her family are or what she does, and I say, I've not asked her, how would you rate my type of fatherhood, that would really underrate me don't you think?

Whilst it is true that nothing is impossible with God, and that by a miracle or mercy of God, such quick marriage can happen. Sister, Brother, how can you possibly build your life on something that you have no control over. The miracles and the mercies of God are exclusively his prerogative, he does it when he wants and gives his mercy to whomsoever he wills, that doesn't have your name on it, does it? Rather than be looking for a miracle marriage, why not go for the one you are certain of, while you expect his miracle.

Why are you in such a hurry? How can you claim you know him so well, when all you know are the things he told you and perhaps the fact that he is nice or that she loves the lord. What about his past, his school, his past places of work, what about her friends, her challenges, past relationships, personal and intricate issues that should be known?

And, oh yes, I've not forgotten about 2Cor. 5:17,

...if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: OLD THINGS ARE PASSED AWAY; behold, ALL THINGS ARE BECOME NEW.

Well as old as  the past is, how would you take it if after marriage you later found out your wife has a kid but never told you? What about visiting your doctor only to find out she's done 3 abortions with your doctor which created complications in her womb and you are just learning of it? Oh, maybe these are extremes, how about she visits you in your new place of work only for you discover she dated your boss for 4 years and everybody in the office knows and are still relating with your wife as their boss' woman? I'm sure you'll just tell them, old things are past away, you won't be shocked, right?

Please, know the person you want to marry well enough. In The Redeemed Christian Church of God, we go as far as carrying out a due diligence, not because we don't trust you but to help safeguard your future. And why get angry if you have no skeleton in your cupboard.

Anyone marrying you has a right to your past because they are also marrying your past and if they can't accept you with your past, please let the fellow go, don't try hiding anything because, if eventually he/she finds out, it may be worse then. While this is not about exposing your past to every dick and Harry, a person who loves enough to want to marry you but can't face or accept your past is not worthy of your future.

What do you know about your Rebekah,  are they the things he told you or his resume? Go beyond words and acts, get a hold of their CV.

1 Thess. 5:12
And we BESEECH you, brethren, TO KNOW THEM which labour among you...

REFLECTIONS:
1. Write out 5 things you consider key, that you should know about a person before marriage.
2. What time do you consider appropriate to open your past to a suitor, from start, middle or just before the marriage?

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