MIRACLE OR MISERABLE MARRIAGE
A DAILY DEVOTIONAL
Dec 8, 2017
Gen. 24:67:
And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death.
In the last devotion, we made it clear that God has a mathematical formula/recipe for successful or fulfilling relationships and marriages.
Our text above shows a clear mathematical progression that produced comfort for Isaac, which if anyone patterns marriage after, such cannot but get the same result, and if otherwise, can be devastating; They are:
1. Isaac BROUGHT Rebecca:
Bringing Rebekah simply means giving your church and your family the privilege to be part of your life partner choice decision making, because it is dangerous to make or decide on this all by yourself.
Our first formula here says; Isaac brought Rebecca; if you want a marriage that will give you peace and comfort like Isaac's, you too must bring that man or woman, and that, before accepting to go out with (dating) or proposing. Don't make the mistake of making the decision all by yourself, because in the multitude of counsellors, there is safety. This means; where you miss it, some other person can get it.
I pity those who turn deaf ears to every other person's counsel. If you are the only one who sees the good in that person while others can't, it won't be long before you beg for the attention of those whose counsel you bluffed earlier. Reason secret dating has ruined and keeps ruining many.
Again, in marriage, whatever you BRING determines what you will TAKE and consequently, what you will LIVE with. Sadly, several churches have no clue as to their oversight role in checking and screening what people bring to the altar today, as long as the families or parties involved say they are okay, then it is okay, when it is not really okay.
In the name of marriage today, several people are unknowingly bringing all kinds of creature to the altar, some bring lions, dogs, bats, etc, others bring satanic agents, ministry destroyers, etc, again their are those who use their own hands to bring their death warrant to the altar, as we have recently seen in the news, the list is inexhaustible. The sad part in all of this is, whether you know it or not, whatever you BRING and AGREE to be JOINED TO, becomes YOUR CROSS for LIFE, NO SEPARATION TILL DEATH comes to aid you, so bring your Rebekah.
2. Isaac TOOK Rebekah:
BRINGING is one thing, while TAKING is entirely another. To take is to ACCEPT FULL RESPONSIBILITY for, unfortunately, many have no clue who or what they are TAKING (JOINING) into their destiny train.
Everybody has a spiritual side which also represents their spiritual tie and debt, (Covenant). Who exactly is that person you are TAKING, what are you using your hand to take (carry) into your bosom?
Prov. ..... says; Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
Do you know the word Rebekah means (connotes) a SNARE, a TIE or to JOIN. Whosoever you take to the altar and consequently your home, becomes your snare and your tie for life. Reason for courtship, a time to further REEXAMINE, PRAY, LOOK WELL, GET UP-CLOSE AND PERSONAL, sadly, we have turned it into a time of selfie spree, picture snapping, putting on same clothes for social media display, friends, family and site seeing period, for our generation, it has become a mere romantic cruise or tour, shopping, kissing and touching each other blindly, further deepening our blindness. NO, please open your eyes, you still have time to TAKE or REJECT Rebekah, because believe it or not, Rebekah will become your SNARE for life.
Therefore PLEASE, PLEASE, AND PLEASE again, pray well for God to open your eyes so you can see beyond the physical, because it is in the spiritual that things appear the way they really are. Even Jesus in the spirit, did not appear normal when John saw his spiritual side in Rev. 1:13-15. His eyes, hair, mouth, feet and all, was not anything near what John knew Jesus as, and do you know, neither does the devil or his agents.
2Cor. 11:14
And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.
Hence the need to work with and listen to divine counsel because sometimes what you cannot see, God surrounds you with people who possess, FORESIGHT, INSIGHT AND SOMETIMES HINDSIGHT, who can help us see past the physical, men who can help see the PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE of that fellow you intend to take.
In Prov. 30:21-23
King Solomon spoke of three things that shakes the earth and four that the earth cannot just withstand, two out of these are tied to marriage. Be forewarned, nothing troubles and shakes a life, a ministry and even the world like marriage.
3. He MARRIED Rebekah;
It will amaze you how many are yet to properly (customarily/spiritually/
Now all we are told is that Isaac MARRIED Rebekah, how or what kind we were not told, my belief is that, the kind of marriage you chose is entirely up to you as long as you carry the church along. The truth is what we popularly know and have accepted as a white church wedding, is nothing but a mere western culture, it's not compulsory to wear a suit, hire a band, carry a bridal train, etc, in order to marry, you don't even have to come to church if you don't want to, the church, if properly carried along can come to conduct the MARRIAGE right after your traditional, same ground, same venue, same food, etc. You don't have to get into debt just to marry, again if you can, why not? But Isaac simply MARRIED Rebekah and that's all you also need to enjoy marriage.
Ps. 11:3, If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Some things underneath are the reasons rather than be comforted, many are suffering different afflictions in marriage. Isaac married Rebekah, he didn't camp her, rather than be living in two houses, his and your family's, this week here and the other week there, and using contraceptives that are not meant for you or getting pregnant and aborting it again and again, or rather than be hatching kids with the excuse of waiting to have enough money, please go and do the right thing, JUST MARRY!, so that union can bring you comfort and so you STOP endangering your life.
4. He LOVED her:
It's amazing how we marry the person we love, but find it so hard to love the person we marry, after marriage. I discovered a few things responsible for this. First is the misplacement of the formula or order of love, while the other is our FALLING and the GROWING concept of love.
Everything created by God is fashioned to function in an orderly manner, once tampered with, it results in DISORDERLINESS, marital love not excluded. Marital love has an order or progression which must be strictly adhered to, to enjoy its dividend. In the progression of Isaac's marriage, please note that LOVE was the last item in the scale that we see;
And Isaac BROUGHT.., and TOOK..., and she BECAME...; and he LOVED her
So LOVING was the last thing Isaac did. Now, how did our generation come to such a pass, where Love now became the FIRST THING we do. Have you noticed that what comes first in our marriage today is love, In fact, none of us will dare start a relationship without first falling in love. We LOVE first, then we TAKE (propose) secretly, before we now bring them to our parents and church to endorse (WED) us, by force and by fire.
Question is, where has it left us, how well have we fared. Isaac never knew Rebekah, he never FELL in love or started loving her till after he MARRIED her, please check the progression again, yet he was comforted. Most of our parents never really knew each other or FELL in love before marriage, yet their marriage, years after remains ROCK SOLID. We REVERSED the ORDER because we are smarter and started FALLING IN LOVE before marriage, but wait, our marriages are not only TEARING US APART, truth is, it is TEARING US TO PIECES, resulting in a very alarming divorce rate among our youths.
This must be an error don't you think, we must be missing something somewhere. Yes we are, our formula is wrong, hence our results are bad. We were not designed to FALL IN LOVE, we were designed to WALK (GROW) IN LOVE
Eph. 5:2 says to WALK in love..., 2Jn. 1:6 says; And THIS IS LOVE, that we WALK ACCORDING (ESV)
While you may not agree with me but the truth is; FALLING in love is not godly love, it's INFATUATION, we were designed to WALK and GROW in love and that's what has sustained our parents (old school) love. Anything that FALLS can definitely not remain the same. We lose our heads when we fall in love, and become blind to the oblivious, but one thing with marriage is that it sets reality in and then, we feel like we've been under a spell for long and wondering how we got there in the first place, hence, gradually resenting the same person we loved so deeply.
Affair love and marital love are two different things, the former is hotter, because it is not real, it is momentary, ephemeral, transient, it is nothing but a mirage, hence it's rage, scripture calls it STOLEN WATERS (Prov. 9:17) but when it's done with, it leaves its victim, empty, cold, wasted, weak, etc, in fact, it awakens its captives to a rude shock. All this kissing and smooching and necking and loving and pouring of affection, head over heels stuff before marriage are nothing but making ourselves casualties of a glorious marriage. Please from henceforth, STOP the love act, STOP the falling act, STOP THE HEART BREAKING acts, KEEP BACK LOVE, let it come last after marriage, it's not impossible with God, be intentional, let love not JUST HAPPEN, let it GROW, be intentional.
CONCLUSION:
For the married, why is it so hard to love like before marriage? One way to know if you still love your spouse is to check how you both treat yourselves, how you both now handle your faults, weaknesses, inadequacies and shortcomings. Loving your spouse means forgiving and overlooking their faults like you did before marriage.
TANKS AND GOD BLESS YOU
#Marriage-Matics
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