5.
FROM MATCH-MAKING AGENTS, CENTRES OR PROGRAMMES
MATCHMAKING
PROCESS
Matchmaking is the process
of matching two or more people together for a relationship, but usually for the
purpose of marriage. Matchmaking
agents or agencies are companies that are devoted to finding suitable romantic
partners for their clients. They interview and then use personal information
about these clients to pair supposed appropriately matched people. Note that
matchmaking services and Internet dating services though almost alike, they are
not the same in that they differ in a number of ways; which we shall consider
later.
In
some cultures, while the role of the matchmaking could be that of the parents,
guardian, traditional priest or spiritual guides, as these were considered to
be oracles and are therefore given the rights since they were often thought to
know, see or foretell the future, especially in helping to find a right or
befitting spouse. In
cultures where astrology is perceived as a way of guiding people, astrologers
were consulted for arranged marriages.
The astrologers often claimed that the
stars sanctified matches that both parents must approve of, making it kind of
difficult for the possibly-unwilling children to object.
In
civilized places, however, the art of matchmaking is very different, it has
been quite professionalized and technological, making it quite attractive and
acceptable among our young ones.
THEIR
MODUS OPERANDI
Some matchmakers have a
wide collection or catalogue of matches that they can pair up. There are
those who focus on clients who have a particular sexual preference, religious
affiliation, educational, or even or cultural background.
THEIR
TOOLS
Matchmaking companies also
have a variety of tools, platforms and media by which customers can access
their services.
PC
(LAPTOP/DESKTOP) TOOL:
Many matchmaking companies
have created websites that can be accessed via the Internet on a PC, so users
must be at a laptop or desktop to access their latest matches.
MOBILE PHONE TOOL:
Some matchmakers offer
their services via mobile apps or responsive sites that are easy to use on a
phone or mobile device. Over the phone, some traditional matchmakers who offer
more personalized services will require customers to call in via a telephone in
order to work with the matchmakers.
In
order to match clients with potential matches, matchmakers will require their
clients to submit a range of relevant personal information. This is
normally done during a face-to-face interview, which also allows matchmakers to
get to know their clients and to create a profile of each customer in order to
be able to match them with other good potential matches from their client base
or beyond.
Today,
most youths, especial those who are being pressured or are under the assumption
that age is no longer on their side, are now subscribing to this style of
finding their life partner. This is due to their conclusion that the rigors and
due diligence the matchmakers observe or subject their clients to, such matches
are most likely to do well. What we fail to realise is that, the success of
marriage is not based on information, speculation, calculation, infatuation,
affection or even on very important virtues as compatibility, when it comes to
the subject of success in marriage, none of these things can hold in a marital
evil day.
While
it is not a sin or evil to meet someone through this medium, to only rely on
the recommendation or accept the arrangement without consulting with God is the
error in itself. To even think to subscribe to finding your life partner here
without being led to do so is starting a war you cannot end. If you forget
anything about marriage, please don't ever forget this;
House
and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord.
Prov. 19:14
This
means, the matchmakers can do all they care to, at best they can sort or help
arrange certain aspects of a persons marriage, but as far as a WIFE and A
PRUDENT one for that matter is concerned; God alone reserves that right, only
by letting God, help you can you find a wife that will give you comfort. The
success of marriage is not basically tied to people's information, background,
education, ability or achievements, it is not even tied to whether a person is
noble or not, Jacob was not noble but made a better husband than Esau who
seemed to be.
Truth
is you don't need a soothsayer or palm reader to know that most of these match
making/organised marriages with time only lead to marital collapse. Organized
marriages are not of God, infact, it only shows how disconnected a person is
from God. Be led.
Prov. 21:31
The
horse is prepared against the day of battle:
but
safety is of the Lord.
Excerpts from LAWS OF RELATIONSHIP by Pastor Richard Minet
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